Couples Therapy

Are you longing for love, connection and understanding?

But instead you…..

• Have recurring fights with no resolution?
• Feel disrespected, nagged, criticized?
• Lack affection, intimacy or sex?
• Feel distant, unimportant or unloved?
• Feel betrayed?

If so we can help you:

• Rebuild safety and trust
• Feel safer and more connected to your partner
• Communicate so you are really heard
• Resolve anger, conflicts and old hurts
• Improve emotional and physical intimacy
• Have more fun together
• Get back that loving feeling

How can couples therapy save your relationship?

If you have read our biographies, you know we have had our challenges as a couple.  As you might imagine, Couples’ Therapy is very close to our hearts.  As you may have read, we experienced a lot of couples’ therapy that was less than helpful.  Some of it was downright harmful.  We finally found a strategy that works.  We know it works because (a) it worked for us when we had just about given up and (b) it has been scientifically studied for years and has proven its effectiveness in real-world studies.  It is called EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy).

If you are caught in negative behaviors of distress, distancing or conflict, feeling lonely and rejected by your partner—we can help you repair the broken bond of trust and create safe and secure connection.  Together in therapy, couples first learn to identify how they get stuck in defensiveness, distance and unhappiness.  As they begin to recognize how each one is caught in these fight, flight or freeze reactions, they begin to see one another differently.  We will help you begin to shape a new pattern of loving, responsive connection.

If both you and your partner are willing to attend therapy, we will begin by meeting together.   After the initial session, I will have one individual session with each of you.  Following that we will meet together with you as a couple for approximately 12 to 20 sessions.

If you want more information about EFT and the “map” we follow to reshape relationships from despair to emotional connection you might want to read Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson.  Also, watch this short video.