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“Miller’s Law” or “The Law of 7 +/- 2”
The Magical Number Seven, Plus or Minus Two: Some Limits on Our Capacity for Processing Information”is one of the most highly cited papers in psychology.
Anticipation is the Greater Joy
Why is it always better to anticipate acting out than to actually act out?
The Addiction Cycle
Awareness and Mindfulness are addiction killers.
Advantages of Group Therapy
Group Therapy is not to be confused with attending a 12-Step Group. In our experience, both types of groups are necessary to achieving recovery.
Surfing the Urge
Even the biggest, scariest, most powerful wave will, given time, become just some water slowly trickling back into the sea.
Merry Christmas
Studies have shown that, while online porn use declines on Christmas Day itself, it spikes in the days after Christmas (and Thanksgiving, for that matter).
Five Defenses Against Acting Out
In this blog, we will give you five methods, five tools, five arrows in your quiver to defend against sudden urges to betray your commitments and to stay sober.
Negative Sentiment Override
You say something positive but your partner gets upset and accuses you of being negative. Your best intentions reap an unexpected, bitter fruit. What happened? Perhaps Negative Sentiment Override.
Neural Hijacking: The Solution
From 1978 to 1982, the odd duo of Bill Bixby (playing Dr. David Banner) and body builder Lou Ferrigno starred in the TV Show “Incredible Hulk.” What can we learn from the Hulk?
Neural Hijacking: The Problem
The human brain is not a homogeneous blob. It has many distinct parts that perform different roles. And, the human brain is not just a bigger brain than that of a lizard or a dog. We have evolved structures in our brains those other animals simply do not have. Yet, we share parts of our brain with those other creatures.
Shalom: Anger’s Answer
If our hope is to rid ourselves of the destructive results of our rages, it would be wise to become familiar with this rich, ancient antidote to the mayhem and pain caused by anger.
Odysseus as a Role Model for Resisting Addiction
Those of us in the addiction community can look back to our ninth grade English class for wisdom in inspiration. It was then many of us were first introduced to the story of Odysseus from Homer’s Odyssey.
The Sum of Somes
There is an old saying: “The three things a person needs to be content are Someone to Love, Something to Do, and Something to Hope For.”
Serenity Prayer: The Full Version
Did you know that these familiar words are not the whole prayer? There is much more to the prayer as it was originally written and prayed back in the 1930’s.
Serenity Prayer: It’s Evolution
Of course, as with any living document, this prayer has been appropriated by many organizations and been reprinted thousands of times. Anyone who has ever played the children’s game of “telephone” knows how subtle, even startling, changes can creep into even the simplest and most straightforward message.
Serenity Prayer’s Three Virtues
Courage:. Writer C.S. Lewis once observed that courage is the one virtue that makes all the other virtues work. He wrote: “Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point, which means at the point of highest reality.
Serenity Prayer Part 2
As practitioners of EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) and as trained Addiction Counselors, we are deeply appreciative of the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
Serenity Prayer — Introduction
Many people, especially in the addiction and recovery community, are familiar with what has come to be called The Serenity Prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” What can this prayer teach us about ourselves,
